Polygyny, according to Webster Dictionary is “the state or practice of having two or more wives at the same time.” We wonder why certain women can stay in that situation. There are at least ten reasons which support this situation:
- The woman is so deeply in love with her husband. Especially if the hubby is her first love too. Since she was a child she had fallen for him and so comfortable with him. Hence, she could not love other guy but her husband only.
- Clinging Vine. As long as their marriage, the wife is not conditioned of making her own money, while hubby is able to fulfill anything she wants, her children want, and even her parents and relatives want. Therefore, it’s hard for her to live away from her husband.
- Stupidity. On this condition, hubby is so powerful in order to influence or even wash his wife’s brain with any he wants. Eventually, because of her stupidity, she agrees with all of her hubby’s word. Probably, this is because of her lack of information and socialization.
- Children. This is the most common reason for women to keep staying on polygyny. The main objective is to protect her children though it is so painful for her. Most of the time, this situation is not also comfortable for the children. They could feel any confusing even hatred to the father.
- Religious. In some religious, polygyny is not prohibited yet suggested in order to help the widows with their children or to reach the higher level in their belief.
- There is no other choice. The woman had neither kith nor kin. Though she has family and friends, but they have not intention of helping her to get out from that situation. Even they support and half force her for not going anywhere and keep staying with her husband.
- Afraid of being lonely. Actually, this is the combination of love, children, had neither kith nor kin, or maybe she is too ugly and not have any self-confidence at all.
- Immature. Similar with stupidity but covered childish feature lack of father’s love and hope and want to accept it from her husband. And yes, she got it from her husband, feel comfortable with him no matter her husband has divided his love with other one/s.
- Certain Condition. Especially for man who still believe in mystical world for his physical or even financial power. One of the condition (the guru’s command) is he has to marry more women.
- Barren wife. For this situation, moreover if the husband has only little love for his wife, and in the other side, the wife has no other choice; then all she can do is just accept and surrender to all of her husband opinion and decision.
My question now is on what category are you(?)? Or is there any category I miss? Please add more.
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