Ten Reasons Why Woman Can Stay in Polygamy?

Polygyny, according to Webster Dictionary is “the state or practice of having two or more wives at the same time.” We wonder why certain women can stay in that situation. There are at least ten reasons which support this situation:

1. The woman is so deeply in love with her husband.  Especially if the hubby is her first love too. Since she was a child she had fallen for him and so comfortable with him. Hence, she could not love other guy but her husband only.
2. Clinging Vine.  As long as their marriage, the wife is not conditioned of making her own money, while hubby is able to fulfill anything she wants, her children want, and even her parents and relatives want. Therefore, it’s hard for her to live away from her husband.
3. Stupidity.  On this condition, hubby is so powerful in order to influence or even wash his wife’s brain with any he wants. Eventually, because of her stupidity, she agrees with all of her hubby’s word. Probably, this is because of her lack of information and socialization.
4. Children.  This is the most common reason for women to keep staying on polygyny. The main objective is to protect her children though it is so painful for her. Most of the time, this situation is not also comfortable for the children. They could feel any confusing even hatred to the father.
5. Religious.  In some religious, polygyny is not prohibited yet suggested in order to help the widows with their children or to reach the higher level in their belief.
6. There is no other choice.  The woman had neither kith nor kin. Though she has family and friends, but they have not intention of helping her to get out from that situation. Even they support and half force her for not going anywhere and keep staying with her husband.
7. Afraid of being lonely.  Actually, this is the combination of love, children, had neither kith nor kin, or maybe she is too ugly and not have any self-confidence at all.
8. Immature.  Similar with stupidity but covered childish feature lack of father’s love and hope and want to accept it from her husband. And yes, she got it from her husband, feel comfortable with him no matter her husband has divided his love with other one/s.
9. Certain Condition.  Especially for man who still believe in mystical world for his physical or even financial power. One of the condition (the guru’s command) is he has to marry more women.
10. Barren wife.  For this situation, moreover if the husband has only little love for his wife, and in the other side, the wife has no other choice; then all she can do is just accept and surrender to all of her husband opinion and decision.

My question now is on what category are you(?)? Or is there any category I miss? Please add more.

HOW DO YOU REACT WHEN OFFENDED AND THE BEST WAY TO OVERCOME

Mario Pereyra and Moreno with a group of colleagues at Universidad Adventista del Plata (UAP), Argentina, have been investigating how people react when they are offended, the disorders that friction causes, and the ways to overcome disputes. They investigation have revealed eight characteristic attitudes. Attitudes are distinct forms of behavior that reflect states of emotion, thoughts, and will. The eight characteristic attitudes are:

1. Submission: Passive acceptance of insult, subordinating oneself to the criticism or reproving attitude of the offender, inventing humbling or self-disqualifying justifications. People of this kind of attitude often say: “I deserve it” or “It’s my fault.”
2. Denial: Conscious exclusion from memory of ideas or feeling associated with the wrong suffered; making an effort to “forget the matter.”
3. Hostile reaction: Predisposition to react immediately with violence, attacking the aggressor with the same act as the offense; a primary attitude that may not leave resentment with the subject but will probably aggravate to conflict with the person who suffers from the emotional outburst
4. Revenge: “An eye for and eye, a tooth for a tooth: Intentionally searching and planning for vengeance, trying to deal out to the offender a similar or greater punishment that that suffered. It is also different from the former attitude in that the reaction is not immediate-much time can pass before retaliation takes place.
5. Resentment: Tendency to retain feelings of anger and hate, remembering often the wrong suffered, maintaining behaviors of animosity and rancor toward the guilty party without actually taking direct acts of revenge as in the revenge reaction mentioned above.
6. Explanation: Confronting the perpetrator for and explanation, justification, or motive for the action in order to overcome the discord through dialogue; to “clear things up.”
7. Forgiveness: This attitude also centers on communication but reaches understanding to clear up the causes of the controversy satisfactorily; the subject closes the doors to hostile actions, vengeance, or rancor.
8. Reconciliation: Overcoming discord through dialogue and with a forgiving disposition, just like the two previous attitudes, but with the intentions of reviving the bond of affection with the offender, in order to reestablish a good relationship.

 

When Mario Pereyra and Moreno analyzed hundreds of studies done with a test made to measure these attitudes (The Attitudes in Situations of Offense Questionnaire, the ASOQ) with people of different ages, sex, marital status, beliefs, and origins, they discovered that these specific forms of reaction correspond to three basic models:

1. The attitudes of submission and denial, which can be interpreted as the tendency to internalize hostile impulses, repressing or denying them. It is the case of one who “swallows” or guards his or her emotions, showing on the exterior a calm appearance, “putting on a brave face.”
2. Response corresponds to behaviors of hostility, revenge, and resentment. Unlike submissive behaviors, this tendency involves aggression, making sure to hurt those who hurt you. It involves “outbursts: and upsets that feed anger until it can be discharged.
3. Form of response channels the emotions through dialogue and negotiation. This covers the last three attitudes-explanation forgiveness, and reconciliation. It consists of seeking to overcome conflicts, preserving good interpersonal relationships, and managing the problem through communication.

 

 

Furthermore, multiple scientific investigations report that either the repression or denial of aggression (the first response pattern), and the violent externalization of hostile emotion (the second response pattern), can be associated with grave physical and mental health disorders. Therefore, it can be inferred that the dialogue behaviors, forgiveness, and reconciliation would be related to good health.

 

Related with it, more investigation also find that those who never express their emotions but bottle them up deep inside are most susceptible to cancer. Likewise, the release of anger in an explosive way, with violent emotion, can also cause illnesses such as heart attacks or other cardiovascular symptoms.

 

Lastly, the more interesting study, still conducted by Moreno and Pereyra, of a sample of 863 people from five countries from different religious orientations found that those who admitted to having active religious beliefs and customs, in contrast with those who did not, showed very different scores in all types of attitudes in the face offence. The differences were most marked in the aggressive responses. Those who were not religious had higher scores in revenge, rancor, and hostility, while believers showed a higher disposition for submission and denial, as well as those behaviors that tended toward dialogue and the search of forgiveness and reconciliation.

 

 

How to Overcome Infant’s Influenza

 Sometime ago I read Suara Merdeka papers then here what I found.  I think this is really work for a just gave birth for the first time moms, and still have no experience of caring infant.  Even most of of them often get panic while the baby if suffering from something.  So, I hope this would be very useful.

 If you are a mom of a around four or less months lovely little infant, you must be very tired but also so excited for him. But, I am sure that you could be so distressed when he god influenza, hard to take breath, and too snotty. For this time, is not wise for the baby to take medicine. So, you can handle his influenza by these:

 

 

• First, and the most important is you have to breast feed your baby at least for six months. Breast feeding is increasing infant’s immunity. With sufficient immunity, your baby could throw virus. Therefore, when he is exposed by influenza virus, you as his mom must help him attack the virus by breast feeding. It’s better for you to increase the frequency and quality as well as the quantity of your milk through consuming nutritious food and drink.
• Give your baby more liquid flow. And the best liquid flow for him is still your milk. The purpose of this is to elude him for dehydration and to keep away his condition for getting worse.
• Try to remove his mucus. If the mucus comes out from nose then it is snot, but if it is from throat then it is phlegm. Mucus is not a disease, but it’s an antibody mechanism for putting the virus outside. Your baby’s nose needs to be cleaned by this drop of NaCl physiology 0.9% for moistening his bronchial tube. Drop for three times a day. Watery mucus is easier to be removed.
• Make the baby’s room warmer. Stay away from dry air, since then turn off the air condition in his room or turn on your air heater. Dry and cold air are the trigger for the hard mucus, and make him hard to breath
• Create comfortable and safety condition. Your infant will cry all the time because of this situation. As a mother you have a certain way for making him more comfortable. It’s a good advice for you to keep the baby in your arm and chest, as do skin to skin contact for naturalizing the baby’s temperature. Please let the baby to feel the sunrise around 7 am to 8 am.

 

If you as a mother have done all of the tips above but your baby’s suffering is still then you have to take him to doctor for having appropriate medicine.